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How to Raise Good Children in a Technological World

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How do we ensure that we raise good children in a world driven by technology?

Good children become good adults. Having respect for ourselves and others is important. Table manners are important, making eye contact when you speak to others, saying please and thank you, working hard, taking responsibility for your actions, not giving up in the face of adversity, and treating others with respect, are all things which are still important today in a technological driven world.

These things appear to be more difficult in our new modern tech driven society. A society that appears bereft of a moral compass and where good old-fashioned values are mocked or seen as dated and plain stupid.

Technology is wonderful…when used appropriately

Technology is a wonderful thing…when used appropriately with children and in front of children.

Nowadays, young children have ipads and phones. Go into shops and doctor’s surgeries and you’ll see young children playing on their parents’ phones or on their own ipads. Or as I have seen so many times, a child playing idly or playing up, while their parent is staring at a screen with thumbs swiping. As an educator I find this a disturbing phenomenon.

Of course children get bored and restless. Sometimes  children need to be entertained. The question we need to ask as parents is this, “Is there a better way to raise our children?” I am not claiming to be a parenting expert, or to have all the answers. I do know that over the years of teaching, children have become increasingly restless, increasingly they struggle to focus, increasingly they have difficulty socialising and increasingly their reading and ability to express themselves verbally have deteriorated. So as an educator, I must ask why?

Be present.

The one thing that we as parents can do for our children, is to be present. That means engaging with our children. Don’t get me wrong, I do think there are times that children need to occupy themselves. We need to model and teach children that it is ok to be bored at times, it’s ok not to be busy all the time or to have something to occupy us every moment of every day. It is ok to be still or quiet sometimes. We do not need to be entertaining our children 100 percent of the time.

Raising children that have interests other than technology

Children mimic our behaviour. When we show our love and enjoyment for nature, learning, reading, playing games, drawing or colouring, they will too. Keep them off devices as much as you can when they are young and instead talk, talk and then talk some more. Of course, this means that we must model this behaviour to our children. That means that we need to stay off our devices too. Here is something to think about. If you were trying to have a conversation with a friend or partner, and they were preoccupied with something else and not looking at you or acknowledging you, how would that make you feel? Would you feel heard? Respected? Loved? Valued?

When our children are trying to engage with us, are we ensuring that they feel heard, respected, loved, and valued?

Boredom Busting Alternatives to Technology

So what alternatives are there for screens? Allow me to share the little trick I used when my children were young. I had a little thing I called a “Boredom Buster Bag”. A small backpack that contained an array of goodies that kept my kids occupied whilst we were visiting friends, the doctor’s office, flights, or anywhere really that they might get bored or restless. Your boredom buster bag should contain things that your kids enjoy and that are age appropriate.

A Boredom Buster Bag may contain the following:

  • ALWAYS a few of their favourite books that you can read to them or if they are old enough, they can read to themselves
  • Some of their favourite toys (small cars, animals, dolls etc)
  • Coloured pencils or crayons
  • A colouring-in book
  • Some blank pages or a sketch book for drawing
  • A pack of cards like Go Fish, Happy Families or Uno
  • A small bag of tick tack toe or a magnetic travel set
  • A puzzle
  • Some Lego
  • Any Where’s Wally book

Using technology appropriately, being present for your children and using simple alternatives that promote hands-on higher learning skills, are some better choices when raising children in our over stimulating, technologically driven world. What do you think? Do you have some other alternatives?

Until next time, take care and happy learning.

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